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| author | Robert McIntyre <rlm@mit.edu> |
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| date | Tue, 12 Jul 2016 21:16:25 -0700 |
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| rlm@164 | 1 #+Title: Heuristics for productive social interactions |
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| rlm@164 | 4 If someone asks you "have you ever talked to X", they are thinking |
| rlm@164 | 5 that that person might be helpful to you. Your answer shoud almost |
| rlm@164 | 6 always be "what should I talk to X about?". (desiree) |
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| rlm@164 | 9 Don't ask people yes/no questions where the "no" answer might be |
| rlm@164 | 10 dissappointing. So for example, asking "did you son accomplish that |
| rlm@164 | 11 before graduating high school?" implies that the no answer means that |
| rlm@164 | 12 the son was "slacking". Ask "how old was your son when he did that?" or |
| rlm@164 | 13 "did your son accomplish that after graduating?". |
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| rlm@164 | 15 In general, avoid binary questions if possible. For example, instead |
| rlm@164 | 16 of asking "Are you married?", ask "What is your home life like?" This |
| rlm@164 | 17 is an important trick that anthropologists use to bridge large social |
| rlm@164 | 18 gaps. The most general version is "what is your story?" |
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