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     1.4 +#+Title: Heuristics for productive social interactions
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     1.7 +If someone asks you "have you ever talked to X", they are thinking
     1.8 +that that person might be helpful to you. Your answer shoud almost
     1.9 +always be "what should I talk to X about?". (desiree)
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    1.11 +
    1.12 +Don't ask people yes/no questions where the "no" answer might be
    1.13 +dissappointing. So for example, asking "did you son accomplish that
    1.14 +before graduating high school?" implies that the no answer means that
    1.15 +the son was "slacking". Ask "how old was your son when he did that?" or
    1.16 +"did your son accomplish that after graduating?".
    1.17 +
    1.18 +In general, avoid binary questions if possible. For example, instead
    1.19 +of asking "Are you married?", ask "What is your home life like?" This
    1.20 +is an important trick that anthropologists use to bridge large social
    1.21 +gaps. The most general version is "what is your story?"
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    1.23 +