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author | Robert McIntyre <rlm@mit.edu> |
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date | Tue, 12 Jul 2016 21:16:25 -0700 |
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1 #+Title: Heuristics for productive social interactions | |
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4 If someone asks you "have you ever talked to X", they are thinking | |
5 that that person might be helpful to you. Your answer shoud almost | |
6 always be "what should I talk to X about?". (desiree) | |
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9 Don't ask people yes/no questions where the "no" answer might be | |
10 dissappointing. So for example, asking "did you son accomplish that | |
11 before graduating high school?" implies that the no answer means that | |
12 the son was "slacking". Ask "how old was your son when he did that?" or | |
13 "did your son accomplish that after graduating?". | |
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15 In general, avoid binary questions if possible. For example, instead | |
16 of asking "Are you married?", ask "What is your home life like?" This | |
17 is an important trick that anthropologists use to bridge large social | |
18 gaps. The most general version is "what is your story?" | |
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